Let’s start with you. Do you feel as if you’re always chasing your loved one? Are you always asking for more care, more attention and more connection? Do you wish they would share themselves more with you … just tell you how they’re feeling? Do they go silent and...

Expectations can be both maker and breaker of our most intimate and precious relationships. It’s important to understand how much power they can have over our connection. Their power arises out of their place in our subconscious. In the fact that they are most often...

Complaining is not a word I like because its negative connotations imply your right to express disapproval and have it met with instant change. Which of course doesn’t usually happen. And that’s because disapproval feels like a moral judgment and no-one responds well...

I can live for two months on a good compliment Mark Twain Many of us find it very difficult to accept compliments. We either brush them off with self- deprecating words and reasons why they can’t possibly be true or we cancel them out by remembering the last critical...

Couples therapy has a rather a bad reputation with some people. I know because sometimes when I tell them what I do, they say that going for couples’ therapy is thought of as the quickest road to divorce. I also know because clients tell me of their previous...

The real voyage of discovery lies not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes. Marcel Proust   A couple of years ago, I returned to live in England, after nearly two decades on another continent. ‘Over there’ one could trace a very slight element of...