Lisa Stevenson

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Expectations – Relationship Maker or Relationship Breaker?

Expectations – Relationship Maker or Relationship Breaker?

Expectations can be both maker and breaker of our most intimate and precious relationships. It’s important to understand how much power they can have over our connection. Their power arises out of their place in our subconscious. In the fact that they are most often...

How to Complain – Effectively!

How to Complain – Effectively!

Complaining is not a word I like because its negative connotations imply your right to express disapproval and have it met with instant change. Which of course doesn’t usually happen. And that’s because disapproval feels like a moral judgment and no-one responds well...

Finding it Hard To Receive Words of Love and Affirmation?

Finding it Hard To Receive Words of Love and Affirmation?

I can live for two months on a good compliment Mark Twain Many of us find it very difficult to accept compliments. We either brush them off with self- deprecating words and reasons why they can’t possibly be true or we cancel them out by remembering the last critical...

How to Navigate Your Partner’s Bombshell!

How to Navigate Your Partner’s Bombshell!

Have you ever been in a situation where you feel you are happily ticking along?   Life feels good. Life seems good for your partner too. Even better, the two of you seem to be ticking along together remarkably well. Then comes the bombshell. Your partner suddenly...

5 Things You Need To Know About Couples’ Therapy

5 Things You Need To Know About Couples’ Therapy

Couples therapy has a rather a bad reputation with some people. I know because sometimes when I tell them what I do, they say that going for couples’ therapy is thought of as the quickest road to divorce. I also know because clients tell me of their previous...

Top Five Things Couples Argue About

Top Five Things Couples Argue About

Do you feel as if you just keep hitting the same old brick wall with your partner? Do you get that sinking feeling in your belly, that ‘here we go again’ feeling? You know that you have fallen in the same old hole and have no idea how to climb out and stay out for...

Why Good Relationships Don’t Just Happen

Why Good Relationships Don’t Just Happen

There is much talk these days of the positive health advantages of marriage. Anyone in a committed relationship, including same sex couples, is healthier, happier and lives longer than those who are not. However, actually being married appears to offer even greater...

New Eyes

New Eyes

The real voyage of discovery lies not in seeking new landscapes, but in having new eyes. Marcel Proust   A couple of years ago, I returned to live in England, after nearly two decades on another continent. ‘Over there’ one could trace a very slight element of...

The Magic of Appreciations

The Magic of Appreciations

Have you ever tried to stay cross with someone when you’ve been asked to say something you like about him or her? Of course it’s pretty difficult to think of something when you’re cross and you may just be too cross to try. Appreciations are very handy and really can...

The Fun of Flirting!

The Fun of Flirting!

When did you last flirt with your partner? And I mean, really intentionally flirt.  Whenever I have asked couples that question, the answer has often been 'not since we got married' but they look a bit sheepish as if they have been caught out.   So what does it...